And Evelyn’s position — which won, and which I now agree with — was:

“It is not a secret.

It is a fact with a date on it.

There is a letter in a drawer that both of us have signed and their guardian has a copy, and if you and I are hit by a bus tomorrow they find out at eighteen from a trustee, exactly as planned.

“What I will not do is let a nine-year-old grow up knowing she is going to be rich.

Your mother grew up knowing.