“I do not want the six years settled.

I want them to stay open.

Not as a weapon — I am never going to use them on you and you know that.

As a fact that we both have to keep living next to.”

What she accepted, in the end, eleven months later, was that the money went into the girls’ trust, which she had wanted from the start and which I had resisted because it did not feel like paying and she said that was exactly the point.

I pay support monthly.