Being unhappy about a comment at dinner is not the same as knowing your mother-in-law is going to hold your child down with clippers, and any process that makes you feel it is has gone wrong somewhere.”

She read the video at eight o’clock that morning.

She called me back at eleven and her voice had changed.

“I need to say something and then I need us both to be professional for a year,” she said.

“In eleven years I have seen a great deal of this.

What is on that recording is not a woman losing her temper.