Then she said something that took the ground out from under me, and which I have since learned is standard, and which nobody warns you about.

“I need to tell you that this report was screened in with your daughter as the subject and with four adults named, and one of those adults is you.”

“Me?”

“You’re the parent in the home.

Every report names every caregiver.

That is not an accusation and it is not a judgment about you.