I have not entirely got over that and I do not expect to.

The guardian ad litem is worth explaining, because it is the most misunderstood role in family court.

Wendy Achebe was not a therapist and not my advocate and not Julian’s.

She was appointed to represent the best interests of two children, and she was paid for by both parties, and she had authority to talk to teachers, doctors, both parents, and the children themselves, and to tell a judge what she thought.

She spent fourteen months on our case and her report is nine pages.