Two. Find out what your state’s automatic orders are, and know that they bind him too.

In Connecticut, a set of orders takes effect the moment a dissolution is served — no hearing, no judge, no motion.

Neither party may transfer or conceal assets, take on unreasonable debt, remove the children from the state, cancel insurance or change a beneficiary.

Most states have some version.

The names differ.

The effect is similar.

Read them.

They are printed on the papers and almost nobody reads them and they are a fence around your life at the exact moment you have no other fence.