I do not know where he learned it.

I only know that I have never been so humbled by anyone in my life.

There are moments in a life that divide it cleanly into a before and an after, and that was one of them for me.

Before those words, I had been a woman with a difficult father-in-law, a man I found cold and arrogant but tolerated for my husband’s sake, for the family’s sake, for the sake of the peace.

After them, I was something else.