“It wouldn’t work. It’s been shared about a thousand times and the audio’s separate now anyway, it’s on three different pages.” She shrugged, which is a gesture that has come to mean a great deal from her.

“And it stopped them. It’s the reason Grandma got charged with anything, basically — you posted it and then everyone knew, and the shelter called, and it all went from there.

I’ve thought about it a lot. I don’t think you were wrong to do it.”

“Then what?”

And my daughter said, “I want to know why you didn’t ask me.”

I have had a year to build an honest answer and here it is.