And that a family which becomes known as the family that complains about the school becomes, in about eighteen months, a family that people are careful around.

And then he said the sentence.

He said it once, mildly, and never repeated it, and I have carried it for thirteen years.

He said: “You’re making him the boy whose mother calls.”

I want to explain what that sentence does, because if you have not lived inside one of these marriages it will sound like something a person could simply disagree with.

It does not ask you to stop protecting your child.