When you are being wronged by someone with power over you, the fight can swallow you whole.

You can spend a year, or five, so consumed with defeating the person who hurt you that you forget to build the life that was supposed to be the point of defeating them.

And then one day the fight is over, and you have won, and you look up to discover that you have become nothing but the fight, a person defined entirely by an enemy who is no longer even in the room.

Sarah saw that trap coming from the very first meeting, and she steered me around it before I ever knew it was there.