When I was young, a disagreement could last for days.

She withdrew affection until someone apologized.

After my father’s death, I’d become the boy who fixed things—good grades, no complaints, money when I could earn it.

As an adult, I had more money but still used the same solution.

If Mom needed something, I paid.

If she criticized someone, I changed the subject.

If Mariana complained, I urged patience.

“Being absent,” the counselor said, “can be an active choice even when you’re physically elsewhere.”