They may not ask them out loud, and they may not ask them that day, but they are asking.

One: is this my fault.

Two: where will I sleep.

Three: are you going to be all right.

Answer those three, in that order, and do not answer anything else, and do not answer them alone.”

“He has to be there.”

“He has to be there.

If you do it by yourself, then for the rest of their lives it was something you told them, and he becomes a person it happened to.”