The numbers were correct.

It was the right decision.

It cost me my career and both of us understood at the time that it would, and we called it a sacrifice and we were both, in that moment, proud of me for making it.

Nobody tells you that a sacrifice has a shelf life.

That there is a window, maybe eighteen months, in which the other person still remembers that you did something — and that after the window closes, the thing you gave up becomes the baseline.

It stops being Jessi left her job for us and becomes Jessi doesn’t work.