I had been doing it.

Not deliberately — in tone, in the small stuff, in the half-second pause before I said Mom’s here, in checking the bag when she came back from a weekend.

My daughter was reading every one of those and filing them, and what she was filing was Dad thinks Mom is dangerous, which was not true, and which would have cost her a mother.

Fenella Doyle put it to me in about our fourth session in the plainest language anybody used in two years.