“What was being done to your firm is a regulatory and possibly criminal matter and it is not urgent at all, and if you touch it emotionally you will destroy it.

“You need to hire two entirely separate sets of people today and you need to stop being the connective tissue between them.”

So that is what I did.

By that afternoon I had a family attorney named Ilse Vandergraaf, who had been recommended by two people independently and who told me in our first meeting to stop recording my wife, which I had started doing on the Tuesday night and which she said would be read by a judge as a man building a case rather than a father managing a crisis.

And I had Dunmore’s firm on the other side, with a written instruction from me that I was to be told nothing about the securities work except when a decision required me.