And there is exactly one thing that can take the attention off the facts, and it is a soldier driving to their house at one in the morning.

“Son, they would love it.

It would be the best thing that happened to them all month.

By Thursday you’re a man with a temper and a deployment record and a custody motive, and every word your daughter says gets read through that for four years.”

Then he said the sentence I have repeated to two other men since.

“You don’t get to be the father who fixed it.

That job’s gone.