The rest, he said, was replaceable.

One day he asked whether I would become the boys’ long-term caregiver in the cottage.

I agreed after negotiating a clear schedule, independent employment terms, and time for my own family.

I also made it plain that the boys’ medical professionals would remain responsible for their medical decisions.

“I want them to have someone who notices the things I miss,” Kenneth said.

“You should notice them too,” I replied.