And then I’d have blown up my marriage for nothing.”

That is the most honest thing my husband ever said to me, and I want it in the record, because he did not have to say it and he could have kept lying for another six months.

“Thank you,” I said.

“I mean that.”

“So can we—”

“I need to ask you one thing,” I said.

“And I want you to understand that I already know the answer, because I met Valerie, and I’ve seen a message you sent her at 11:47 on the night of the party.

“If she had said yes in that parking garage — would you be sitting here?”