She’s grieving too.

Just let it go — it costs us nothing.”

I want to be fair to him, because I have had four years to think about this and rage is not accuracy.

He was thirty-one.

He had just watched his daughter die and his wife nearly die inside eight hours.

He had a mother who had been running his life since he was born and he had never once in his life said no to her, and he was not going to learn how in that particular week.

It costs us nothing was not a strategy.