Both of these are traps.

Bitterness lets the person who hurt you keep hurting you, for years, from inside your own head.

But false forgiveness, the kind that pretends, is its own kind of harm, because it requires you to lie about your own experience, to betray the truth of what was done to you in the name of appearing gracious.

Vivienne refused both.

She forgave the town, and even, in a strange and limited way, made a kind of peace with the fact of her aunt, but she did not pretend.

She did not tell Mrs.