She is better than fine, by every measure anybody applies to a kid — she does well at school, she has three close friends, she plays the cello adequately and complains about it constantly, she is fourteen at me about the phone in a way that I understand is developmentally correct and that is nonetheless exhausting.

She has two things left over, and Dr.

Roshan says both are normal and neither is a problem to be solved.

The first is that she still, at fourteen, checks.

When plans change she wants to know why, in detail, immediately.

Not anxiously — she is not an anxious kid.