In four years, not one person.

You get asked how you’re coping and you get told she was a wonderful woman, and every single question anybody asks you is about the dying, and none of them are about the eleven years.

I talked for an hour and a half.

I told her about the thing Rebecca used to do where she’d concede a point in an argument and then bring it back up four days later fully reconstructed.

I told her about the fight we had in 2014 about a car that neither of us wanted, which we conducted for six days.

Pamela laughed in the right places and asked follow-ups, and at the end of it she said, “She sounds like she was hard work.”