Two Weeks After Our Baby Died, My 8-Year-Old Whispered, “Mom, She Isn’t Gone—I Saw What Daddy Did at the Hospital”

Father offered holding.

Father accepted.

Mother unavailable at that moment.

Later note:

Mother recovering; father requests delayed discussion of infant viewing/memory items due concern for emotional state.

Then another:

Bereavement team advised father that mother may be offered options when alert. Father states he prefers to discuss with spouse first.

That line devastated me.