Then she reached out, seized my chin, and dug her nails into my jaw to force my face up.

“Your mother should have taught you these rules a long time ago.”

That one struck something.

My own mother had fled an abusive husband when I was small, giving up everything to keep us safe. The person who taught me never to kneel to anyone was Mr. Kenneth — the grizzled trainer who found me crying on a concrete staircase decades ago and took me into his neighborhood dojo.

I slapped her hand away from my face, straightened up, and looked down at her.

“Address me properly. And don’t touch me again.”