Here is what my husband did not get and what nobody ever asked him about.

He was not consulted.

Not really.

I want to be honest about that: on the fourteenth of October, when Dovie Mwangi asked whether we would be willing to be assessed for placement, I said yes in about two seconds and then I telephoned Hugo in a corridor and told him what I had said.

And he said, “Okay.”

That is it.

That is the whole conversation.