We went to two sessions with Imogen Achara together in the April and he said almost nothing in the first one, and in the second one she asked him a question I would not have thought to ask, which was what he thought was going to happen.

And he said: “I think she’s going to stay.

And I think if she goes back, Alma won’t recover from it, and I don’t know how to be useful in either of those and nobody has ever asked me which one I want.”

Then he said: “I want her to stay.

I’m not supposed to want that and I do.”

There is a thing about kinship caregivers that Dovie Mwangi’s training day says out loud and that I had never heard anywhere else.