I have asked twice.

She said no both times, kindly, and the second time she said: “Alma, my daughter lives in there.”

Our parents have Sunday lunch and we both go, and it is fine, and I would describe our relationship as courteous.

She has never forgiven me for paragraph thirteen and I do not expect her to.

She has never said so directly.

What she said, once, in 2024, was: “You wrote down that I did it on purpose.