That is exactly what happens and it is not reversible and nobody in that system ever pretended otherwise.

My mother’s position was different and it was the one that hurt.

She did not defend Curtis.

What she said, in about nine different formulations over three months, was: “She is my daughter too.”

And on the eleventh of December, in my kitchen, she said the thing that took ten weeks to arrive and that I think she had been assembling the whole time.

She said: “You have my granddaughter in your house, and my daughter is on a supervised visit list, and you are the reason for both, and I am supposed to be grateful to you, and I am, and I would like you to understand what it costs me to say it.”