After to endure several unsuccessful relationships, I realized that the behavior of my daughters could be the main cause.
Every time I introduced a friend, they bombed him with an exam about his intentions, finances and the past, which made them feel restless. After the third breakup, I turned to a collaborator for advice.
When he met my daughters, he admitted that he had grilled him with such difficult questions, he felt like an intense work interview. At that time it hit me: My daughters unknowingly left my randy.
I knew I had to deal with them. So after dinner I sat them down and explained that while I appreciated their concerns and protection, I needed them to believe me to decide their own decisions.
They acknowledged their concerns that I was injured and agreed to silence it. Since then, I have noticed changes in our household and things felt much lighter. Months later, when I met someone new, the girls finally warmed up at him – although I felt that he was still quietly evaluated, just in case.
Conclusion
Looking back, I am grateful for the honesty and growth that followed this conversation with my daughters. It was not easy, but by the solution of their fears and boundaries, we were able to find a balance that allowed me to continue relationships while still honoring their protective instincts.
Over time, I have seen them how they will date me to date me again, and although I know they will always have their backs, I also know they believe that they are deciding correctly. It is a reminder that the dynamics of the family always evolve and sometimes open communication is the key to understanding and progressing forward.