A man had posted on Reddit that he had altered his perspective and wouldn’t pay for his girl’s wedding after she had welcomed his sibling, with whom he was in conflict, to the pre-marriage ceremony.
He then went to Reddit clients for guidance.
Subsequent to recounting his story, he had communicated the issue among himself and his sibling.
“I’m 46M, my sibling 48M. At the point when I was 20, my then sweetheart cheated with my sibling. I was sorrowful and pissed. I let him know he is at this point not my sibling.
Regardless of my solicitation, my family didnt cut him off, so I let them know that I won’t ever from now onward be in a similar spot as he is.
On the off chance that they wish to welcome both, they ought to simply welcome him as I’m the one giving extreme.”
Then, at that point, she said that her little girl had let him know his sibling would get a greeting.
“My little girl is getting hitched in spring one year from now. In our way of life the two guardians are paying for the wedding, 50/50. Suddenly, my girl put me down and let me know that she will be welcoming my sibling and his family(he wedded my duping ex). Clearly, she was seeing them throughout the previous 4 years and constructed a relationship despite my good faith. She even maintains that her cousin should be a bloom young lady of some sort.”
By then, the dad declared he wouldn’t cover the part of the wedding that he should.
“I was pissed. I told her my limits and in the event that my sibling is welcomed then I won’t pay my piece of the wedding. She became irate and let me know now is the right time to relinquish the past. I advised her its not her call to make. We contended some more and she let me know I’m making her wedding about myself. I told her I will likely not even join in so it will be about her. She left crying.”
Then they generally blamed him and called him a butt hole.
“My ex called me shouting and let me know I’m immense AH and our girl is squashed. Then my folks called, same thing. I berated them and presently I’m disregarding their calls. My GF advised me to reevaluate and appologize. That by not paying and going to I will break relationship with my girl. I don’t have the foggiest idea. I figure my limits ought to be regarded. Am I a**hole for that?”
Here are a portion of the remarks Redditors made under the post.
Grow up.
Time you all grew up. How awful for your daughter, that you are such a bitter man.
Did you parents go to your brothers wedding to your ex-girlfriend? I think that all families should make a pact not to date each others partners, no matter what their age. It was unseemly for your family to go behind your back to court this relationship for years. I like the idea that you have a discussion with your daughter and ask if her fiance dated a friend of hers and he married her later what would that outcome be. Seems to me like she doesn’t have much of a relationship with you. If that is true and you have not held on to that relationship, and it is more about the money, you can step away and never expect to make up for your lack of responsibility as a father. If that is the case you would probably walkaway with no remorse anyway. Depends on what you want your future relationship to be with your daughter.