There are many parenting philosophies and each has its proponents.
While some parents prefer strictness, others are more relaxed and emphasize kindness and understanding. One of our readers, Emma, belongs to the second group.
Often criticized for her parenting techniques, she wrote to Bright Side to discuss her unusual approach and ask for advice.
Emma decided to end the cycle of her family. She wrote us a heartfelt letter when she was 38 years old.
Hello Bright Side. I have always respected your platform for providing a forum for unrestricted expression. In the past I have often commented on other people’s posts, giving advice and expressing my opinions. I am now seeking feedback from your readers regarding my son’s situation.”
“My son Georgie is eight years old,” Emma said at the beginning of her narrative. I’ve known all my life that I want children. I decided to start raising my childless harshly after I found out I was pregnant.’
Her upbringing influenced the parenting approach she took.
A negative personal encounter influenced her choice. Growing up under the strict rules of my parents, I began to realize the negative effects of an authoritarian upbringing. It was hard for everyone in our house, not just me. My confidence eroded and the constant pressure created anxiety. There was tension in the connection with the parents.’
“For years I didn’t understand the impact this setting had on my mental health.
But as I got older, I tried to deliberately face these difficulties. In parenting, it is important to strike a balance between understanding and discipline. I therefore want to provide my son with a loving environment that values respect, love, and honest communication.
I want him to avoid the same problems I did. However, my husband disagrees with this strategy. She feels that Georgia needs to be aware of social conventions and the consequences of her behavior.’
Emma decided not to force her child to apologize.
“I will never force my child to apologize or say thank you and please,” she clarified.
This strategy, in my opinion, could traumatize him psychologically.’
“We train them to be fake when we make them apologize, even if they don’t mean it. It’s okay if your child doesn’t feel bad about what they’ve done. Children need time to develop empathy and understanding.”
the impact of forced apologies teaches that other people’s feelings are more important than their own Sometimes after a disagreement or argument we need some time to collect ourselves and consider our mistakes Mistakes and acknowledge our role in the matter We deny children reflection when we. Urge them to apologize, we also encourage them to put the other person’s needs before their feelings, to stand up for themselves and not be able to get what they need, Georgia wouldn’t make it up.”
Speaking about the incident on the playground, Emma said: “I went up to the boy who was pushed by Georgie on the playground and apologized instead of making him apologize.
Georgie, I think, would have noticed my actions and behaved appropriately under the circumstances.
However, Georgie’s mother was not amused and asked him to apologize. She referred to me as a terrible and neglectful mother when I justified it.’
Her friends and family are very critical of her.
Emma gets a lot of flak from friends and family. “Our domestic dispute intensified after the playground incident. I disagree with my husband’s insistence on using harsher techniques. Some believe that controlling their child’s behavior with force or cruelty is a beneficial parenting technique. They may be acting out of insecurity or fear.” My goal is to be a friend to my child, support him in managing his feelings, and guide him through life.
This way of communication teaches the child responsibility and independence, just as I don’t think they influence others less than my authority, I just don’t think I’m better than my son. Georgie and I already have a close relationship, I tell him when I’m feeling overwhelmed and need some alone time, now he’s learning from me so he’ll let me know when he needs more space.”
“Despite always having confidence in my parenting methods and seeing positive results, constant criticism from my husband and other parents has made me question my decisions,” Emma concluded in her letter asking for help. I hope you can advise me, audience. What do you think about it?
There are many parenting philosophies and each has its proponents.
While some parents prefer strictness, others are more relaxed and emphasize kindness and understanding. One of our readers, Emma, belongs to the second group.
Often criticized for her parenting techniques, she wrote to Bright Side to discuss her unusual approach and ask for advice.
Emma decided to end the cycle of her family. She wrote us a heartfelt letter when she was 38 years old.
Hello Bright Side. I have always respected your platform for providing a forum for unrestricted expression. In the past I have often commented on other people’s posts, giving advice and expressing my opinions. I am now seeking feedback from your readers regarding my son’s situation.”
“My son Georgie is eight years old,” Emma said at the beginning of her narrative. I’ve known all my life that I want children. I decided to start raising my child less harshly after I found out I was pregnant.’
Her upbringing influenced the parenting approach she took.
A negative personal encounter influenced her choice. Growing up under the strict rules of my parents, I began to realize the negative effects of an authoritarian upbringing. It was hard for everyone in our house, not just me. My confidence eroded and the constant pressure created anxiety. There was tension in the connection with the parents.’
“For years I didn’t understand the impact this setting had on my mental health.
But as I got older, I tried to deliberately face these difficulties. In parenting, it is important to strike a balance between understanding and discipline. I therefore want to provide my son with a loving environment that values respect, love, and honest communication. I want him to avoid the same problems I did. However, my husband disagrees with this strategy. She feels that Georgia needs to be aware of social conventions and the consequences of her behavior.’
Emma decided not to force her child to apologize.
“I will never force my child to apologize or say thank you and please,” she clarified.
This strategy, in my opinion, could traumatize him psychologically.’
“We train them to be fake when we make them apologize, even if they don’t mean it. It’s okay if your child doesn’t feel bad about what they’ve done. Children need time to develop empathy and understanding.” the impact of forced apologies teaches that other people’s feelings are more important than their own Sometimes after a disagreement or argument we need some time to collect ourselves and consider our mistakes Mistakes and acknowledge our role in the matter We deny children reflection when we.
We encourage them to apologize, we also encourage them to put the other person’s needs before their feelings, to stand up for themselves and not be able to get what they need, Georgia wouldn’t make it up.”
Speaking about the incident on the playground, Emma said: “I went up to the boy who was pushed by Georgie on the playground and apologized instead of making him apologize.
I think Georgie would have noticed my actions and behaved appropriately under the circumstances.
However, Georgie’s mother was not amused and asked him to apologize. She referred to me as a terrible and neglectful mother when I justified it.’
Her friends and family are very critical of her.
Emma gets a lot of flak from friends and family. “Our domestic dispute intensified after the playground incident. I disagree with my husband’s insistence on using harsher techniques. Some believe that controlling their child’s behavior with force or cruelty is a beneficial parenting technique. They may be acting out of insecurity or fear.” My goal is to be a friend to my child, support him in managing his feelings, and guide him through life.
This way of communication teaches the child responsibility and independence, just as I don’t think they influence others less than my authority, I just don’t think I’m better than my son. Georgie and I already have a close relationship, I tell him when I’m feeling overwhelmed and need some alone time, now he’s learning from me so he lets me know when he needs more space.”
“Despite always having confidence in my parenting methods and seeing positive results, constant criticism from my husband and other parents has made me question my decisions,” Emma concluded in her letter asking for help. I hope you can advise me, audience. What do you think about it?