The complexities of the dating world elude our complete understanding. Nikki Jabs, a TikTok user who captures her dating experiences on camera, found herself in tears when her former partner called an Uber for her, feeling “ashamed” of her appearance. Filled with sorrow and disappointment, Nikki recorded herself sobbing after leaving his place and returning to her own vehicle.
Nikki’s spirits soared when Greg, her Hinge date, invited her to a professional gathering, where she could mingle with her acquaintances and colleagues.
Devoting 40 minutes to perfecting her makeup, she readied herself for the highly anticipated launch of a retail store, a place where her significant other toiled away. Opting for a blend of casual and formal, she adorned herself with a long-sleeved black crop top paired with high-waisted rose gold pants. As she captured a video of herself inside the elevator on her journey back home, she enveloped her figure in a vibrant crimson coat.
Contrary to expectations, her partner, whom she described as “very lovely,” found it difficult to bear witness to her dolled-up appearance at the event.
She penned these words: “He was engulfed in shame, unable to accompany me in this attire, thus he summoned an Uber to take me home and skipped the grand opening.”
Nikki had previously updated her followers about her initial encounter with Greg, the man she met through Hinge.
“He appeared rather timid,” she remarked in the audio. “So I ended up carrying the conversation for the most part.”
“But things have taken a turn,” she continued. “We’re on our second drink now, and he thinks I’m the most fascinating person he’s ever met. He’s incredibly sweet.”
After they returned to his place and he overcame his shyness, Nikki shared, “He confessed that my beauty made him feel uneasy.”
Greg urged Nikki to stay with him indefinitely, and she described it as “the happiest weekend” of her life. He showered her with praise, exclaiming, “What stroke of luck brought you into my life? You’re incredible, and I feel incredibly fortunate to have met you.”
Nikki, who resides in a van with her cat, continued the story, saying, “‘I’m not leaving,’ I declared. And he responded, ‘You’re welcome to stay as long as you like.’ I replied, ‘Don’t tempt me, because I might never leave.’ To which he replied, ‘I’d be perfectly fine with that.'”
Greg continued to express his love for Nikki, describing himself as “obsessed” and “head over heels” for her.
However, as the latest incident unfolded, it turned into yet another heartbreak. People inquired about the event, and Nikki eventually shared the details.
“I picked him up from work today, and we had planned to grab a bite before his work function. As he stepped into the car, his gaze remained fixed on me.”
“I had a sinking feeling that something dreadful was about to happen,” she pondered. “Why are you staring at me so intensely?” I questioned. And once again, he replied, ‘Oh, it’s nothing.'”
With her voice steady, she continued recounting, “He expressed, ‘You just look so stunning.’ I couldn’t help but ask, ‘Are you implying that I’m overdressed?’ His response was, ‘Perhaps not for dinner.'”
Throughout the week, he had persistently advised her to tone down her attire and opt for a baggy sweater instead.
Feeling the weight of the situation, she candidly stated, “‘Will you be ashamblob:https://imgur.com/73d263ce-bb24-49ea-840c-f9949ef2b848ed if I show up at your work event dressed like this?’ I questioned. ‘Should I go home and change?’ I probed further. Despite repeating the question, ‘Do you want me to go home and change?’ multiple times, he remained silent. Eventually, he uttered, ‘I’m just in a terrible mood right now.’ As we headed to the restaurant, my irritation grew, as this had been an ongoing issue for weeks.”
While seated at the restaurant, she made a resolute decision, whispering to herself, “It’s either going as I am or not going at all.” Sensing her resolve, he inquired, “‘So, should I call you an Uber?’ to which I calmly replied, ‘Sure, call me an Uber.'”
Returning to the apartment where she had been staying for the past three weeks, she swiftly called an Uber, packed her belongings, and found solace back in her van.
Nikki began to unravel the subtle indications, noting, “It all started with casual remarks over the past weeks like ‘Why are you wearing heels?’ or ‘I prefer it when you wear sneakers.’ There were comments about my makeup being excessive and a preference for me to be my true self.”
“He deemed my chosen outfit to revealing for his professional event,” she divulged. “Currently working at an athleisure clothing company, he himself was dressed casually in jogger pants and running shoes.”
Now settled in her car, she had successfully relocated while Greg was still at work.
Several individuals pointed out that Greg seemed to be exerting control over her life. One person shared their own experience, saying, “My ex-boyfriend did something similar. It’s not about your appearance. It’s his own self-consciousness that turned into a problem for you.”
Echoing the sentiment, another voice chimed in, “If your wardrobe preferences were that important and specific to him, he should have communicated it clearly. It’s time to remove him from your life.”
Adding her professional perspective, a domestic violence therapist remarked, “As a DV therapist, I want to emphasize that testing boundaries are a way domestic violence escalates in relationships. I’m relieved that you’re safe. I also have another book recommendation for you.”
In light of the situation, it is clear that if a man can comfortably wear sneakers and jogger pants, there should be no reason why a woman can’t confidently embrace a midriff-revealing ensemble with long sleeves!