The journey of parenthood is often described as a transformative experience where one’s life is changed forever by the arrival of a new family member. But for Angie Setlak, the joy of expecting her son Xavier was overshadowed by the problems she faced in her relationship with her partner. Despite her partner’s infidelity and the turmoil it brought, Angie still hoped that the birth of their child would bring positive change. Yet when Xavier entered the world prematurely, Angie’s hopes were soon dashed by a series of heartbreaking events. What began as a hopeful new chapter in their lives quickly turned into a nightmare as Angie found herself racing against time to protect her son from a grave threat. The ensuing harrowing ordeal serves as a stark reminder of the fragility of parenthood and the profound responsibility that comes with it.
Becoming parents is a significant turning point in many people’s lives. Another human person needs you to be there for them at all times and they are completely dependent on you.
However, not everyone is ready for this level of responsibility.
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Angie Setlak was really nervous when she was expecting her son Xavier.
She tried to give all her attention to their young son because her partner was unfaithful.
She imagined that everything would change when the baby boy was born, but that fantasy quickly turned into a nightmare. One day she got a message from her partner. She knew she didn’t have much time to save their son’s life after receiving this news.
Every parent’s worst fear is that their young child may suffer harm.
Whether your child is young or old, you as a parent will stop at nothing to ensure their safety.
In rare cases, however, we also learn about people who are not fit to be parents at all.
When everything went wrong, Angie Setlak was expecting her and her boyfriend’s baby, Xavier. Her partner wasn’t interested in her at all, even as she counted down the seconds as her belly continued to swell.
He was unfaithful all the time and broke Angie’s heart over and over again.
So things turned upside down again when the son was born four weeks early.
“His father was unfaithful which made our pregnancy difficult and affected both the baby and my blood pressure. But we managed it and he was born perfectly healthy. The doctors who predicted he would stay in my womb until his due date were taken aback when he exploded in a fit of rage. After 16 days in hospital, we came home and I had three wonderful months at home with my baby,” Angie tells Love What Matters.
However, one individual found it difficult to adjust to a new existence.
His father and Xavier were left alone one day.
Additionally, Xavier’s father, who was expected to take care of the baby while Angie’s mother returned to her job, couldn’t make it.
Angie was about to start her first job after maternity leave when she went through something no one should have to go through.
Throughout the day, she received numerous messages from her partner complaining about how difficult it was to take care of their son. “Xavier’s dad texted me all day about how hard his life was and I assured him we would find another way so he wouldn’t have to take care of him alone during the day. He only spent a maximum of two hours alone with him the entire time of his parental leave and everything went well,” he says on the website.
“I was supposed to take care of Xavier during the day when I was working and he was supposed to take care of him at night when he was working. He was working in the evening. My husband kept telling me that everything would be fine even though I’m really worried about the scenario because after all, he raised a 10-year-old.”
But everything changed when the news came.
Later that day, he sent his girlfriend a surprising message in which Xavier’s father asked if he could kill the boy. “On the first day after starting maternity leave, I received a text message from him asking if he could kill our child. I assured him that I was on my way and I wasn’t doing anything.”
It wasn’t long before she got another message.
Xavier’s breath hitched.
Mum Angie was rushed to the hospital after the little one was rushed there.
The father insisted that their son choked on the milk, even though the boy was brain-damaged.
But Angie soon found out.
Xavier spent two weeks in a medically induced coma to help him. They warned his mother that he might not wake up and gradually weaned him off the medication. “We struggled with two things. The trauma and the time his brain was deprived of oxygen. I heard everything from ‘he may never learn to walk, talk, or move’ to ‘he may be blind.’ But I remained confident. he’ll come back to me,” the mother noted. Angie was able to go home with her son after spending 17 days in the hospital.
In contrast, Xavier’s father was taken into custody on charges of abusing his child.
Angie claims the police believed the father had violently shaken Xavier, causing him severe brain damage.
Xavier has had multiple surgeries since then and is getting stronger every day.
Gorgeous little Xavier is the only person in his mother Angie’s life; his father is absent for a long time.
“I hope someone who reads our story will be moved to tears and understand the importance of never shaking a newborn. You should never, ever shake a baby. You can easily avoid it. My baby was irrevocably changed by a moment of rage.”
The harrowing ordeal of Angie Setlak and her son Xavier is a poignant reminder of the immense responsibility and challenges that parenthood brings. Despite betrayal and adversity, Angie’s unwavering love and determination to protect her child exemplifies the deep bond between a mother and her offspring. The traumatic events she experienced underscore the importance of vigilance and recognizing the signs of potential danger to ensure the safety and well-being of vulnerable individuals, especially infants. Xavier’s resilience and Angie’s unwavering dedication to his recovery serve as a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the power of a mother’s love to overcome adversity. As their journey continues, Angie hopes their story will serve as a cautionary tale, raising awareness of the devastating consequences of infant abuse and inspiring others to put the safety and well-being of children above all else.