From the beginning of the wedding planning process, it was clear that something was off.
Friends and relatives saw it, the bride’s tone changed, once her cheery excitement became a little harsh, almost controlling whispers spread among the wedding party and guests as the bride-to-be married imposed a number of wedding rules that left everyone confused and apparently a bit concerned not just about preferences or chores It was a desire to get on well—that was prompted by something deeper, something more troubling these desires.
Planning your wedding is hard work, characterized by carefully balancing meeting the expectations of your guests while remembering that newlyweds are the focus This story of a Reddit bride and groom choosing to plan their wedding on their own terms and their own unique vision.
He wrote:
Let me be clear that my fiancé and I came up with these wedding rules together, many of which are his ideas. Before you all conclude about how crazy I am, how my fiancé has to run away from me, and how badly he treats me, I will explain every law and argument against them, and our family.
Rule 1: No electronic devices during the ceremony and a reception is to be held after dinner until before the dance party begins.
That means no phone at all unless there is a serious emergency. The ceremony portion was well received, but the food portion was too much for a few people. Many of my friends’ parents have said they should be allowed to use their phones to monitor their babysitters when they are away from home.
I said that if I give them a discount, everyone has to do that, so no. Unplugged is the same as unplugged. Talking to children is not an urgent matter. If something important happens, you will be notified.
The men wear tuxedos and the women dresses, and the color scheme is all black. Women are not allowed to wear pants. There are two responses to this that I got. For one thing, while she was trying to move on and overcome her grief over her husband’s death, my aunt had just stopped wearing black clothes and said it was depressing Necessary clothing was another problem because my brother-in-law’s sister was physically ill, and hated clothes on her; Instead, he always wears jeans.
Once again, we need to create exceptions for each of them if we provide exceptions for both.
Food for the bride’s companions Law
Bridesmaid dresses are ordered months in advance. So, they do carry the same weight. If you’re above average, make every effort to maintain your body shape.
If you are thin, cut out fast food for a few months and stick to your weight. We’ll have an issue if the clothes don’t fit you, so keep eating your food.
They complained that I couldn’t control their eating. I’m not sure if the claim of one of my bridesmaids that she got ED because of her rule is true because they don’t have a formal diagnosis.
Aspect
Our flower girl is meant to be my daughter-in-law, but she says she can’t because the child has to be with the babysitter at the hotel after the ceremony. She lives four hours away from my home and the venue for my upcoming wedding. Instead of bringing the child as a flower girl and leaving her at the hostel with the nanny, she refused to bring the child and decided to stay with her mother to save the nanny money
“My in-laws have been against most of our rules from the beginning,” he continued.
My mother was so angry that she said that our marriage was ruined from the beginning because of this law, even though my parents have been supportive to this day. Weddings threaten to pull out, and many cancel at the last minute.”
Reddit users unanimously agreed that this soon-to-be bride should rethink her set of rules.
Rule 1: It’s unrealistic to expect strangers to “unplug” during your hosting, regardless of whether they’re parents or not. Whether they got married or not, their lives have nothing to do with you, so the ceremony itself is very special.
Rule 2: Ladies, please go out in the 1950s with your must-have clothes. Women look good wearing pants.
Rule 3. Absolutely not. It just isn’t that. You’re officially in power-tripping Bridezilla territory with this one.
Rule 4 states that once you use her child as a flower girl, you want a childless marriage and do not apply to the MOH childcare system.
Girl, get better before you fire everyone. Reddit/@CrystalQueen3000
Many of your guests and friendships may suffer from your strict application of restrictions. If you want a party with few attendees and an empty ceremony, be the revolutionary that you are. @broadsharp2/Comments
Rule 1: Make sense of the ceremony.
Dinner/reception is not practical and unavailable.
Rule 2: Absolutely unreasonable.
In addition to this, more reductions are expected. If weddings had this kind of dress code, I would be totally opposed to going.
Rule 3: Not just absurd, but downright horrible.
It takes courage to try and dominate your groomsmen with food and body.
In fact, your demands and expectations make their lives very unhappy.
Rule 4: If your rules for child care are out of her comfort zone, your MOH should not reward you with a flower girl.
You act like such a Bridezilla. You will have far fewer friends than you had in the beginning, and if you don’t stop, your family will resent you for a very long time. @Reddit/Mehitabel9
You can be alone with the groom at the wedding if you don’t break that rule and apologize to everyone immediately. You should also find another flower girl or give up altogether, and owe the MOH a sincere apology. I find it hard to imagine being left in the care of a stranger who works as a hotel babysitter, expecting to participate in the wedding and possibly the photos. @AmericanHealth74/Reddit
On a related note, a wedding planner asked her recently married couple what, if anything, they would change for their big day.
Some respondents said they wouldn’t change anything, while others mentioned things they truly regretted. As a result, she lists the top 13 mistakes couples make when planning their wedding in this post.
In conclusion, this bride’s story is a cautionary tale about the delicate balance of personal desires and lovers’ expectations in wedding planning While every couple has the right to structure their special day according to their vision, it’s important if they say a wedding is not just that love celebration between two people That’s what happiness comes with. The strict rules and requirements of the bride eventually alienated those closest to her, turning what should have been a happy occasion into a source of stress and conflict.
Responses from Reddit users reveal a general truth: flexibility, empathy, and consideration for others are the keys to a harmonious and memorable wedding day. By listening to guest concerns and compromising where necessary, couples can ensure their wedding is a celebration that everyone can enjoy Ultimately, it’s the memories with loved ones that matter personally, and that memory is built on mutual understanding, love, and respect.
As the bride weighs her decisions, she still has time to review and adjust her plans, making sure her wedding reflects not only her and her groom’s love but a day that fosters relationships and fun for all who attend as well. After all, marriage is the beginning of a new chapter in life, and if you start with good intentions with the help of those you care about most, it is a gift that no law can replace.