It all started innocently enough—a casual first date, a charming man, and a bouquet of flowers.
My brother Marcus had been raving about Andy for weeks, insisting he was polite, successful, and “different from all the other guys” I’d dated. Normally, I would have rolled my eyes and retreated to my Netflix-and-Chinese-food routine, but something about Marcus’s persistence wore me down.
Perhaps it was his personal investment, or maybe just fatigue from being the perpetually single sibling. Whatever the reason, I agreed to meet Andy. One date—no pressure—if it ended in disaster, I swore it would be the last time I ever took Marcus’s matchmaking advice.
On the night of the date, I stood in front of the mirror adjusting my navy dress for the fifteenth time, wondering why we voluntarily torture ourselves in the name of romance. When the doorbell rang at exactly 7 PM, punctuality or obsession, I couldn’t tell, but the sight of Andy holding a small bouquet of wildflowers made me forget all my skepticism.
Tall, dark-haired, and effortlessly put together, he greeted me warmly, handing over the flowers with a smile that nearly erased memories of my past disastrous dates. Dinner at a small Italian restaurant downtown went surprisingly well;
he held doors, pulled out chairs, asked thoughtful questions about my work and hobbies, and even debated the merits of mountain versus coastal hikes. For the first time in months, I felt hope—maybe this could be someone real, sane, and kind.
The evening ended with Andy insisting on driving me home, his reasoning simple and old-fashioned: a gentleman ensures his date’s safety. I should have refused, my instincts whispered, but his charm was persuasive, and I allowed it. Twenty minutes later, he walked me to my door, waved goodbye, and that was that—or so I thought.
The next morning, I woke with coffee in hand to a PayPal notification that made me blink twice. Andy had sent me an itemized bill for last night’s date. Gas from the restaurant to my place, car depreciation, downtown parking, even a cleaning fee for “puddle splash marks”—the total came to $37.25. The message read, cheerfully:
“Thank you for a wonderful evening! Please find attached the expenses for your safe transport home. Looking forward to our next date! – Andy.” I laughed until tears streamed down my face. The man who had seemed perfect the night before had transformed courtesy into a business transaction. I couldn’t help but picture him at a desk meticulously logging every door held, chair pulled, and mile driven, balancing spreadsheets titled “Chivalry Expenses Q1 2025” and “Door-Holding Costs by Location.”
Once I stopped laughing, I realized he deserved a response that matched his own creativity. If romance could be an invoice, I could make customer service just as ridiculous.
I sent him $50 via PayPal, including a note: $37.25 for his listed expenses, plus a $12.75 tip for door-opening, chair-pulling, and overall chivalry, signed, “Please rate your customer experience five stars! Looking forward to never seeing you again! – Sarah.” Then I blocked his number and texted my brother: “UPDATE: Mystery solved about why your pickleball friend Andy is still single!”
Word of the incident spread among friends, and soon “Ava’s invoice” became the joke of our social circle. People shared their own absurd dating stories—men who charged for concert tickets after breakups, women whose emotional labor had been inexplicably monetized—and my tale fit right in. I even peeked at Andy’s social media and saw that the man truly lived in spreadsheets: budgets for every life scenario, photos of him hugging a calculator, LinkedIn articles pinned like sacred texts about “optimizing dates for maximum ROI.”
While some might view Andy as a cautionary tale, I saw humor and an important lesson in boundaries. I realized that too often, I had excused odd behavior in dating and bent over backward to please others. Andy’s invoice was a grotesque exaggeration, sure, but it reminded me that kindness should never be treated as a commodity and that emotional labor has real value—even if you invoice it sarcastically.
In the weeks that followed, I shared the story at brunches and parties, laughing with friends until tears ran down our cheeks. My brother Marcus admitted defeat: no more matchmaking experiments, especially with accountants disguised as gentlemen. Life went on. I continued dating, met people who didn’t send invoices for being polite, and cherished ordinary human interactions. Andy’s absurd audacity became a symbol of survival: a reminder that humor, self-respect, and a little clever defiance could turn even the strangest dating misadventures into stories of empowerment.
In the end, the invoice was never really about $37.25. It was about asserting boundaries, reclaiming my voice, and finding laughter amidst absurdity. Some people leave your life quietly; others leave you laughing until your stomach hurts while shaking your head in disbelief. Andy, in all his spreadsheet glory, was in the latter category. And that, I realized, was exactly the lesson I needed to learn about dating, audacity, and keeping your sense of humor intact.
It all started innocently enough—a casual first date, a charming man, and a bouquet of flowers. My brother Marcus had been raving about Andy for weeks, insisting he was polite, successful, and “different from all the other guys” I’d dated. Normally, I would have rolled my eyes and retreated to my Netflix-and-Chinese-food routine, but something about Marcus’s persistence wore me down.
Perhaps it was his personal investment, or maybe just fatigue from being the perpetually single sibling. Whatever the reason, I agreed to meet Andy. One date—no pressure—if it ended in disaster, I swore it would be the last time I ever took Marcus’s matchmaking advice.
On the night of the date, I stood in front of the mirror adjusting my navy dress for the fifteenth time, wondering why we voluntarily torture ourselves in the name of romance.
When the doorbell rang at exactly 7 PM, punctuality or obsession, I couldn’t tell, but the sight of Andy holding a small bouquet of wildflowers made me forget all my skepticism. Tall, dark-haired, and effortlessly put together, he greeted me warmly, handing over the flowers with a smile that nearly erased memories of my past disastrous dates.
Dinner at a small Italian restaurant downtown went surprisingly well; he held doors, pulled out chairs, asked thoughtful questions about my work and hobbies, and even debated the merits of mountain versus coastal hikes. For the first time in months, I felt hope—maybe this could be someone real, sane, and kind.
The evening ended with Andy insisting on driving me home, his reasoning simple and old-fashioned: a gentleman ensures his date’s safety. I should have refused, my instincts whispered, but his charm was persuasive, and I allowed it. Twenty minutes later, he walked me to my door, waved goodbye, and that was that—or so I thought.
The next morning, I woke with coffee in hand to a PayPal notification that made me blink twice. Andy had sent me an itemized bill for last night’s date: gas from the restaurant to my place, car depreciation, downtown parking, even a cleaning fee for “puddle splash marks,” totaling $37.25. The message read, cheerfully: “Thank you for a wonderful evening! Please find attached the expenses for your safe transport home.
Looking forward to our next date! – Andy.” I laughed until tears streamed down my face. The man who had seemed perfect the night before had transformed courtesy into a business transaction. I couldn’t help but picture him at a desk meticulously logging every door held, chair pulled, and mile driven, balancing spreadsheets titled “Chivalry Expenses Q1 2025” and “Door-Holding Costs by Location.”
Once I stopped laughing, I realized he deserved a response that matched his own creativity. If romance could be an invoice, I could make customer service just as ridiculous. I sent him $50 via PayPal, including a note: $37.25 for his listed expenses, plus a $12.75 tip for door-opening, chair-pulling, and overall chivalry, signed, “Please rate your customer experience five stars! Looking forward to never seeing you again! – Sarah.” Then I blocked his number and texted my brother: “UPDATE: Mystery solved about why your pickleball friend Andy is still single!”
Marcus called shortly after, still laughing and processing my screenshots. “Sarah, I am so sorry,” he said, amusement tinged with disbelief. “I had no idea he was like this. None of us did.” “How could you?” I replied, giggling. “I’m guessing he reserves his entrepreneurial charm for dates, not pickleball matches.” Marcus went on, telling me that Andy had bragged to the group about our date, calling it “like a romantic comedy” and claiming he was “pretty sure he found his future wife.”
I snorted. “Movie-worthy, but more like a horror-comedy hybrid.” He also shared that Andy defended himself with phrases like “chivalry doesn’t pay for itself” and “modern women should appreciate transparency in dating expenses.” I could barely breathe from laughing, and within fifteen minutes, the entire pickleball group had voted Andy out.
The story didn’t stop there. The next weekend, while scrolling TikTok in pajamas with coffee in hand, I nearly choked. A young woman had shared screenshots of her own “itemized date invoice” from Andy: gas, car depreciation, parking, and even a $15 cologne and grooming fee. “This guy thinks he’s Uber with a side of dating service,” she said, holding up her phone.
Comments were merciless, calling him “Taxi & Misogyny Service” and mocking the idea of paying for the honor of his presence. The video went viral, amassing over two million views, and other women shared similar experiences, exposing a broader pattern: some men treat basic courtesy as a service owed, expecting gratitude, reciprocation, or payment. Andy’s antics became a symbol of entitled, transactional dating.
Looking back, I’m grateful for the Andy experience—not for the invoice itself, but for the lessons it taught me. Trust your instincts: my safety rule about first-date transportation exists for a reason, and ignoring my gut left me vulnerable to absurdity. Generosity isn’t a transaction:
real kindness is freely given, without strings attached or itemized billing. Reactions reveal character: a person of integrity would have apologized, learned, and grown, while Andy doubled down on entitlement. Sharing stories matters: discussing the invoice with friends and online validated experiences and helped others recognize patterns in dating behavior.
I’m still dating, now with sharper boundaries and lower tolerance for red flags. I always take my own ride home from first dates, confident that a worthy partner won’t bill me for basic courtesy. Marcus has become more cautious with matchmaking, realizing surface-level interactions rarely reveal true character.
The Andy story has become legendary among our friends—not just for humor, but as a reminder to trust instincts, identify red flags, and value mutual respect over transactional gestures. Months later, the woman whose viral TikTok inspired others thanked me;
Andy’s systematic billing had been ongoing for over a year, and the “cologne and grooming” fee was his newest addition. Leaving him was unquestionably the right choice. Sharing the story exposed his behavior and prevented him from continuing his absurd, transactional dating habits.
I’m still open to love, but now I know that kindness shouldn’t come with a price tag. Real relationships are built on respect, not invoices.
The flowers Andy brought lasted a week—but the lesson about boundaries, intuition, and genuine character will last a lifetime. And honestly, that lesson is worth far more than $37.25. What began as a bizarre, audacious first date ended as a story of empowerment, laughter, and clarity: a reminder that standing your ground, trusting your instincts, and refusing to accept transactional kindness are victories far greater than any financial tally.