Have you ever experienced the sting of disappointment when someone you trust the most lets you down at your weakest moment?
Maybe they weren’t there when you needed them, or their behavior made you question your whole relationship. These emotionally charged situations can shake even the strongest bonds.
Whether it’s a partner focusing their attention elsewhere during a health emergency or a co-parent who refuses to support you when you’re struggling, these scenarios happen more often than we might admit.
But how do you cope when the feelings of hurt and betrayal cloud your view of those you expected to count on? Let’s explore a few real-life situations that might resonate more than you think.
Being in a hospital is stressful enough, but things can quickly become complicated when personal conflicts surface during such vulnerable times. The Reddit forum r/AmitheA**hole has countless posts where users recount intense, sometimes shocking experiences in hospitals. Some stories involve parents neglecting their children, others describe frustrations with medical staff.
Here are some of those stories—judge for yourself who’s right or wrong in each case.
Am I the Ahole for Ignoring My Hospital Roommate?**
I (30F) had surgery today. Six months ago, I gave birth but developed a complication that needed surgery now. I was the day’s first patient and after recovering, I was moved to an observation ward. Later, a woman in her 40s was placed in my room. I was watching TV on my iPad but out of courtesy, put in my AirPods.
In the afternoon, my husband visited with our baby. After they left, my roommate started a conversation. We talked for about half an hour, but then I told her I needed to nap. She called me selfish.
When I woke up, she had left. The nurse told me my roommate had asked to be moved, saying I was “unkind.” I felt I had done nothing wrong wanting rest, but a bit of guilt lingered.
Update:
I’m in a private hospital, where I asked for a private room, though it wasn’t guaranteed. My old classmate works in recovery and visited me. Turns out my roommate shouldn’t have been in my room since there were empty rooms available. My new nurse told me my roommate kept complaining about me and was rude to my mother-in-law. I’m getting discharged tomorrow and just want peace before going home.
AITA for Going to the Hospital After My Ex’s Son Called?
I dated a woman, Maya, seven years ago. She had a son, Mark, who was four then. Mark’s father died when he was a baby, so he never met him. Maya and I became close over time. We broke up two years ago due to unresolved issues, nothing bad.
Last week, Mark called me late at night, saying they’d been in a car accident. Mark was okay, but Maya was hurt and at the hospital. Since Maya has no living relatives and Mark was alone, I went to support him.
Maya was unconscious when I arrived. I stayed with Mark for hours. When Maya woke and saw me, she asked why I was there. I said Mark called me. She told me to leave, saying I shouldn’t have come. I left, wondering if I crossed a line, but now I don’t think I did. Mark was scared and reached out to someone he trusts. Was I wrong?
AITA for Refusing to Pay My Nephew’s Hospital Bill?
I have four kids: Alexis (15), Lucas (12), Ronnie (11), and Allie (8). Alexis has health issues needing frequent hospital visits. She has a PICC line for blood thinners and sometimes pain meds.
My sister’s kids, Andrew (12) and Alyssa (9), recently played with mine. Alexis had a minor procedure, and I showed my sister a funny video of Alexis after it. Andrew overheard and asked about it. I told him Alexis had some meds.
Later, Andrew found Alexis’s medication in the pantry. I explained it was her medicine. After walking our dogs, I noticed a blood thinner vial was nearly empty and a syringe missing. After asking, Andrew admitted he injected himself, mistaking blood thinner for pain medicine.
My sister rushed him to the hospital where he stayed overnight. Now she’s sending me the bill, blaming me for leaving meds out. I refuse to pay because my kids know not to touch others’ meds. She’s threatening legal action. Am I wrong?
AITA for Calling My Girlfriend Selfish Over Missing Our Child’s Birth?
My girlfriend Jane and I (both 26F) have a one-year-old son. I have chronic heart issues and was hospitalized for a month when Jane was six months pregnant. I felt awful missing that time but she understood.
Two days before her due date, I was hospitalized again with heart fluid buildup. While recovering, my brother-in-law told me Jane gave birth. I was happy but heartbroken I missed it. Once discharged, I rushed to see them.
Over the year, Jane grew resentful about me missing the birth. Last night, during a date, she admitted she was still upset. I called her selfish, saying my illness was beyond my control. She left upset. Was I wrong?
AITA for Spending Time With a Hospitalized Teen?
My daughter is hospitalized with organ failure from an eating disorder. Next door, a 15-year-old girl named Mila, with an intestinal disorder, has been there three weeks and rarely gets visitors. I started talking to her and playing games.
Yesterday, Mila’s mom arrived and got angry at me, accusing me of judging her parenting and even calling me a predator. My husband thinks the mom overreacted, but now I wonder if I crossed a line. Was I wrong?
AITA for Reporting a Hospital Worker Who Tried to Touch My Baby?
I took my 7-month-old son to the hospital. While waiting for blood work, a woman started asking about my baby, who was sleeping under a blanket. She lifted the blanket to look and tried to touch him despite me saying no.
She claimed she worked there and could do that. I got upset, told her not to touch my baby, and filed a complaint. The hospital staff warned me many moms don’t mind, but I was furious. I feel guilty but also angry. AITA?
AITA for Refusing to Watch a Sick Dad’s Daughter Again?
I have two daughters, one autistic. A single dad, Gary, whose daughter Elsie used to be friends with mine, often asks us to babysit. We agreed a few times out of kindness.
Recently, Gary was hospitalized twice, leaving Elsie with us for weeks. This disrupted my autistic daughter’s routine and home office. When Gary asked again, I said no, needing to prioritize my family.
Elsie’s mom is alive but unavailable. Am I wrong for refusing again?
AITA for Not Spending Christmas in the Hospital With My Daughter?
My 16-year-old daughter has a sensitive stomach and often ends up hospitalized due to eating trigger foods she loves, like soda and chips. This Christmas, despite warnings, she ate those foods and was admitted again.
I stayed home with family, keeping in touch but didn’t visit. She was upset and said I abandoned her. Family members sided with her. AITA for not spending Christmas in the hospital this time?
AITA for Accidentally Causing My Co-Worker’s Allergic Reaction?
My co-worker Lukas and I planned a surprise balloon decoration for Lily’s first anniversary at work. We didn’t realize she’s severely allergic to latex. When she came in, she had a bad reaction and was hospitalized for two days.
She was upset and said I should have known. I didn’t mean harm. AITA?
AITA for Telling My Pregnant Girlfriend I Can’t Rush to Hospital Every Time?
My girlfriend (21F), pregnant with our first baby, often panics and wants to go to the hospital for every discomfort. We’ve been there multiple times. I told her I can’t drop everything constantly, which upset her.
She’s now distant and refuses to share pregnancy updates. I apologized but feel worn out. AITA?
AITA for Refusing to Bring My Wife Home From the Hospital?
My wife has stage 4 colon cancer and requires full-time care. After a hospital stay, I realized I’m too exhausted to continue as sole caregiver. I refused to bring her home and asked for professional care placement.
My kids are upset, but I believe this is best for her. AITA?
AITA for Refusing to Watch My Kids So Their Dad Can Be With His Wife in Hospital?
My ex-husband, who has our two daughters, asked me to take them early one week because he needed to be at the hospital with his pregnant wife. I declined, citing custody agreements and suggesting other options.
He called me “sick in the head” for refusing. AITA?