It’s a secret I’ve kept for a while, but it’s time to come clean – I’ve been dreaming of a lifestyle that might raise a few eyebrows.
Imagine this: a life where my alarm doesn’t dictate my day, where my biggest decision is whether to experiment with a new recipe or go to a midday yoga class. Sounds idyllic, right? Well, here’s the twist – I’m not talking about winning the lottery or retiring early.
I’m talking about how to become a modern millennial housewife. Yes, you read that right. While the world glorifies hustle culture and shattering glass ceilings, I wonder if the real dream would be to swap baby-changing appointments and clothes for cozy kitchen aprons.
Work should be optional, much like choosing what to have for breakfast. As a writer, I spend a significant amount of time talking to fascinating people, sharing their stories, and making the most of open bars. But like any job, there are days when the job is exhausting, and honestly, I wouldn’t mind passing my financial burden on to my husband for example. I recently discovered that Ayesha Curry is not only a basketball wife and mom to viral daughter Nae Nae, but also a food and lifestyle blogger. When I found out, she made me seriously think about the idea of ​​becoming a housewife.
At first, the idea made me feel less of a feminist. How could I, someone who values ​​professional independence, even think of interrupting my work life to marry a rich man?
But I don’t feel that way anymore.
Lately, I’ve been hooked on E!’s WAGS, a reality show about the wives and girlfriends of professional athletes (hence the acronym “WAGS”). These women are more than drama and catfights—they’re raising families, starting businesses, and jetting off to white-sand beaches, often on their partners’ dime. Watching them redefine domestic roles was fascinating.
Growing up, I was raised by a single mother who worked multiple jobs, so my sister and I never had to worry about money. For a long time, I believed that this was the only way to build a functioning household: endless hustle, and constant sacrifice. But now I realize that this is a narrow way of thinking.
You’d think that as someone who thrived in a single-parent household, I’d lean more toward a dual-career marriage than a domestic life. But my perspective has changed. I have no desire to become a Stepford wife, bound by outdated gender norms. Instead, I envision a more modern version of the housewife—one that is as dynamic as the world we live in.
The idea of ​​a housewife has evolved significantly.
In today’s world, a millennial woman with a solid education who chooses to rely on her partner for financial support can be seen as underestimating herself. After all, women are thriving in the workplace now more than ever. However, according to a 2012 survey by Forbes and TheBump.com, 84% of working women said they desire the financial freedom to stay home and raise their children. The increasing pressure to balance work and family life has made many women yearn for the opportunity to focus more on their roles as mothers and wives.
They are not Betty Draper housewives who spent their days entirely in kitchens and gave up on ambition. Today’s stay-at-home moms often pursue careers from home, start businesses, or invest time in passion projects while being active, hands-on parents.
Take for example the housewives we see on reality TV shows. Many of them just sit idly by – building brands, creating products, and making significant contributions to their households. Sure, it may sound strange to some that I’d rather experiment with DIY projects on Pinterest than punch the clock every day, but modern housewives are so much more than their stereotypes.
Some of my closest friends are married to soldiers and stay home to support their children full-time. These women are proof that running a household and being present for your family can be just as rewarding as climbing the corporate ladder.
Millennial housewives aren’t just trophies.
Sure, some people might roll their eyes at my newfound #relationshipgoals, but I believe millennial housewives are far from fancy wives or over-indulged mothers with armies of nannies. They are actively involved in their children’s lives, standing at the forefront of every recitation and soccer game, while leading households that thrive on their care and guidance.
In a world where women feel constant pressure to excel in both parenting and career roles, there’s no telling which path—working mom or stay-at-home mom—is “better.” Both come with their own challenges and rewards.
When I think about my future married life, I imagine writing stories from my home office, taking my kids on play dates, and experimenting with new recipes. My ultimate goal is to find a partner who respects my decision to build a house instead of a 401(k). For me, it’s a true balance of happiness and fulfillment.
Ultimately, the decision to pursue the life of a housewife or career-based professional isn’t about conforming to societal norms or succumbing to stereotypes—it’s about choosing a lifestyle that aligns with personal values ​​and aspirations. The modern housewife has evolved into a multi-faceted role that includes everything from taking care of the family to running the household and even building side businesses. Whether you juggle work and family or devote time exclusively to home life, every woman’s journey is valid and meaningful.
For me, the ultimate goal is to find fulfillment in creating a loving home while maintaining the freedom to explore my passions. It’s not about abandoning ambition, it’s about redefining what success means on my own terms. Whether I’m writing stories from my kitchen table or managing playdates and projects on Pinterest, I strive to build a life where I’m fully present to my family and unapologetically true to myself because a happy and balanced life is at the end of the true dream worth chasing.