A lump came up in my throat, because it had taken me the better part of thirty years and a great deal of pain to learn that particular sentence, and here was my ten-year-old arriving at it on her own at a baggage carousel in Orlando.

“No, baby,” I said.

“It’s not the same at all.

Forgiving someone means you set down the wanting-to-hurt-them-back.

It doesn’t mean you agree it was okay.

You never have to agree it was okay.