My secrecy, meant as a gift to my son, became the very instrument of my erasure.

If I had it to do again, I would still catch him.

But I would let him feel the weight of the catch.

I have learned, too late to spare either of us, that invisible generosity does not protect the people you love.

It only trains them to undervalue you, and undervaluing is the soil that every later cruelty grows in.

Chapter 4 — The Servant at the Table