He said Ryan’s dad taught Ryan to ride a bike and Mom taught him, on the grass at the school, and it took four days.

He said he didn’t even know if he wanted to do this.

He said — and this is the one that went in — “You don’t know anything about me.

You’ve known me for like one year.

Mom’s known me my whole entire life.”

And then he cried, and then he was furious about crying, which at eight is worse than the crying.

I did four things and I have thought about each of them a great deal.