That was Marcus’s decision and mine, together, at a kitchen counter, in about eleven minutes.

They will find out.

Both of them, some time in their teens, from an internet search, because it is all public and the case has a name and the name is searchable.

And we agreed that when that happens it happens to a girl who has already known the other one for eight years, and who has a memory of a barbecue and a dog, rather than to a stranger reading a court file.

Marcus said, at that counter: “I want the first fact she learns about your daughter to be that she’s funny.”