I want a fair discussion about how our finances operate, and I want the factory rescue arrangements transparent.

But I don’t want to spend the rest of my life wondering whether you think loving me means writing a larger check.”

I sat opposite her.

“Then we’ll make a plan together.”

We met with separate counsel to review our financial arrangements, including provisions that would protect each of us if our marriage ever ended.

There was no grand romantic victory in the details.

There were documents, questions about ownership, and conversations that tested our patience.