“Don’t change the locks, don’t ambush him, don’t get into a screaming match,” she said.

“You don’t need to win an argument tonight.

You need to decide how you want the rest of your life to look, and then start living in that direction.”

At six, I heard keys in the lock.

Noelle came in first, holding a bag of seashells.

Toby followed with a beach ball under his arm.

And Declan came in last — tanned, in a polo shirt, wheeling two fat suitcases, an inflatable pool float under one arm — beaming, easy, a man returning from a lovely holiday.

“We’re home!” he called.