And there are two more grandchildren you are about to learn existed.

Nothing about Oliver becomes less real when the rest of the truth arrives.

Nothing about Lily or Leo becomes less real because you learned their names late.

And the fact that your son was frightened does not mean you must pretend secrecy was healthy.

You can love him and still say:

You should have told me.

That is what I eventually did.

Years later, the family album begins with three pregnancies.