Keep, always, some record they cannot reach and cannot destroy — of the facts, of your own choices, of the evidence, of the exits, of the pieces of yourself that no one else should ever be allowed to control.

My father spent his life quietly building, for the daughter he would leave behind, a habit of keeping copies.

And a year after his death, that habit — a crushed camera that had already sent its copy elsewhere, a lesson about locks, a drive in a drawer — reached forward out of his grave and saved my life and my daughter’s.

He could not be there to stand between me and the man who tried to kill me.

So he did the next best thing, years in advance.