Neither parent can direct anything. Not me, not her.

There is a corporate trustee and an independent protector and a distribution standard, and if I want something for my own children’s benefit out of that trust I have to ask somebody, in writing, and be told no.

I have been told no once.

It was about a summer programme and the trustee was right.

Nothing before twenty-five, outside education and medical. Not twenty-one, not eighteen.

Evelyn was immovable on this and her reasoning was not about prudence.