The visits. Wendy Achebe’s recommendation, and the order that followed it, was that the children could visit at my discretion, with a strong recommendation in favour, and that discretion is the heaviest thing anybody has ever handed me.

I took Leo twice.

Both times he asked to go.

I did not take Nora, and that was my decision, made against the advice of one professional and with the support of another, and it was based on nothing more defensible than that she was six and did not remember him well and that a visiting room is a visiting room.

She will ask me about that when she is nineteen.