The psychological harm of the Bourdin deception to the Barclay family was not simply the material harm of being deceived.

It was this deeper harm: the interruption and corruption of a grief process that had been in progress, followed by the need to restart that process from a more damaged position.

This is the specific cruelty of the Bourdin case — not just that he exploited a family’s grief, but that he disrupted the natural processes by which human beings adapt to loss and left those processes more damaged than they found them.

The Question Of The Brother