Which was true, and which I would say again today, and which was the answer she was hoping for and — I now understand — the answer she needed for a memorandum she was writing.

Then she sat back and she did not ask me the fifth question.

The fifth question was: what is it that you actually do all day?

She did not ask it.

She had my job description, which she had drafted.

She had my expense reports, which included a hotel ballroom ramp and four chairs and a banquet manager’s overtime.

She had, if she wanted it, everything.

She sat in that office and she made a decision not to ask a question of a man who was sitting in front of her and who would have answered it, and she made that decision because she had worked out that the answer would put her under an obligation she did not want.