Three words that told me everything, that turned my brother-in-law from a grieving family member into something else entirely, in a single instant. He’s breathing.

We have a problem. I read it twice, to be certain. He’s breathing.

We have a problem. Not he’s alive, thank God. Not it’s a miracle. Not any of the things a brother would think or type or feel upon discovering that his sibling was not dead after all.

A problem.

My husband’s survival was, to the person who had just typed those words, a problem.

And there was a we.